Only See Inside Of Me

The Nature of the Flame within your Heart

Let us explore the nature of the flame within your heart. If you ever feel a warmth in your heart, a feeling of peace, love, joy, or elation, then you are being touched by the indwelling Spirit, the Presence of Divine Beingness, the very Sacred Flame which has been enkindled within your heart.

You may feel this upwelling Spirit while you are in prayer or worship, or while quietly meditating, or other devotional activities. You may feel it while walking down the sidewalk or strolling through a park, simply enjoying nature's beauty. You may be doing household chores, or you may feel it for no logical reason whatsoever, which may be quite often. You cannot limit how or when it will come. The burning flame is always present, but you do not feel it always. However, through various disciplines and meditative practices, it may become more regular, because this way you are becoming more receptive and awake to its reality. The yearning heart through such devotional practices will readily increase by its own nature of unfoldment. After such regular practices and centering into God's Presence, experiencing the Sacred Flame in the heart will become a common occurrence. Soon you will have only to think about the Sacred Flame burning within in order to feel its warmth, its bright glow deep inside your soul.

Normally, it is after countless times of practicing meditation and certain spiritual exercises that will prepare the unfolding soul and allow for such automatic responses. However, when it comes up unexpectedly and spontaneously, such times would be opportune for you to enter meditation and focus on the upwelling flame within, to go more deeply into the blossoming experience. Also realize that your efforts are essentially putting you in the right place at the right time, because these experiences always come due to God's grace. Your efforts may demonstrate faith in God and a particular process, which opens the door so that divine grace will do the rest. To illustrate, if you are a sun-bather, you can't do this indoors. You have to take the effort to leave your house, drive to the beach, and then you relax and lay out in the sun; because the sunlight does the rest of the work. You brought yourself to the right place, and the right time, during the daytime, beneath the bright sun. This gives you an idea how most meditative practices operate, and then you patiently await the results.

If you're spiritual sight has been opening, you may even see the Sacred Flame from time to time, often unexpectedly. When this occurs as an illuminatory experience, of which you may encounter several times on your path, you are beholding the indwelling Light of Christ. This is experienced not only in the heart but on many levels of your being. Let it be known here that this is a genuine visual experience, a gift of Light, but explaining the details of exactly what this looks like would be erroneous. For one reason, these mystical experiences are usually different for each person, for it is a spiritual fact that everyone experiences life differently; likewise, every aspirant experiences spirituality somewhat differently. Another reason is that giving explicit details as to what a particular spiritual experience should look like would only plant premature seeds into your subconscious, and this will only create false experiences. This is why many mystical schools hold certain spiritual secrets from its beginning students, until they are ready for the next level. This may seem like a paradox, because it is true that the truth must be revealed to all, although this process is an eventuality, for not all are ready.

Only the pure of heart and mind and soul can begin receiving the sublime Truth of God, and on this path that begins with the Purgative Way. However, your journey through all levels of the threefold Mystical Path will eventually bring you to this Truth, which shall set you free. Once you have gone through the purging and purify process, this prepares you for the next level, the Illuminative Way, and as you continue unfolding spiritually, the next level should be retroactive, the Unitive Way, the realization and experience of the God-being within. The early contemplative mystics have walked this particular journey, for it is in reality the path of Initiation, found in many of the ancient and modern Mystery Schools alike. Aligned with these three "ways" or levels of Mysticism are the spiritual initiations of Baptism, Illumination, and Self-Realization.

You may have experienced the Sacred Heart of the Master Jesus Christ, and countless aspirants on this path have indeed witnessed this. This is an initiation of the most profound nature, in which one can experience the Sacred Flame in one form or another. Once again, each individual experiences such sacred occurrences somewhat differently, for each one is unique, and yet all people are born from the One Spirit of God. This is a paradox we will attempt to explain. To use a common example, there is one light, yet when placing a prism before it, the light refracts into seven main colors. Of course there are innumerable sub-colors, hues and shades throughout Creation that we can observe. Likewise, the Universal Divine Beingness of God manifests in an infinite myriad of ways throughout the whole Creation, whether this is through the mineral, plant, animal, or human kingdoms, and even the celestial life-waves and such levels many people do not see or comprehend yet. Hence, in like manner, each human being is a unique facet and expression from the one Creator, and yet all human beings together are one mankind. We are like the infinitesimal rays that emanate from the one Sun. Or we are like snowflakes; no two are identical.

Only the Creator of all could ingeniously create such unfathomable creatures as human beings.Within us is diversity and unity simultaneously, two poles of a vast spectrum. Although we are born into the world of diversity, it is unity each soul must learn to realize. You can observe the vast variety and uniqueness in all species of living creatures and all life-forms on Earth, for the Creator desires to express the multitudinous aspects of Infinity through the physical realm, as well as all level of existence. This manifestation of diversification is not merely found on Earth, but throughout the whole universe. As much as there is uniformity and symmetry in Creation, there also exists diversity. Hence we see this paradox of diversity in contrast to unity, a necessary reality in existence. Otherwise, this Creation would be monotonous and stagnant and inflexible.

We began discussing the reality of human uniqueness to express that spiritual experiences for each person are different because each individual is different and unique. Each one expresses, observes, perceives, and experiences life differently. Each person's personality is different. When an unfolding soul is receiving and experiencing a deeper reality of the Divine Creator, it will experience and perceive it somewhat differently than other souls, although there will be common similarities, or typical characteristics, much like the common likeness in snowflakes, yet no two are identical. Incidentally, this vast diversity of mankind has manifested in the many religions and a spiritual traditions across the world, because each person seeks God in a different way, and God allows this because of each person's uniqueness. There are many paths that lead to God.

The student on the spiritual path will begin to have various spiritual experiences, and as wonderful as they may be, he will not understand them at first, so he needs proper guidance and direction. For this reason he goes to his spiritual teacher, because this advanced soul can recognize key signs in the student's spiritual experiences and discern their exact nature. He may give the student definitions and labels which only satisfy the intellect, but a wise teacher will tell him that such labels are meaningless to the heart, for the heart goes beyond words and enters mystical experience itself. The teacher may tell the student that he is simply growing closer to the God within, that his own divine nature is expressing through him now, and that he is awakening toward Divine Beingness. The student should be told that there will be many such profound experiences, and that he must not have high expectations toward them, for some may be very subtle, and others may be more pronounced. The teacher may give the student a more advanced exercise or meditation now, which will assist him to unfold further from the point of his most recent spiritual experience. Although the student does exert some effort, it is always God's grace that opens the door for him for further spiritual growth; once again, very much like the sunbather's analogy.

If you have had any kind of mystical experience, do not try to mentally interpret it for yourself or determine what your experience means. Discuss it with your spiritual teacher. If you do not have one, seek one out. However, you can meditate upon this spiritual experience, to ascertain deeper insight involving its reality, tuning into your God-being within for further understanding. You don't want to intellectualize it, but use your intuition to discern, through meditation.

Each seeker will search various spiritual traditions or specific methods of unfoldment until he finds the one that matches his soul's needs. While he seeks for a particular mystical school or tradition, he will find the teacher that will guide him further. The God-being within will guide him to the proper path that is appropriate for him at the time, and likewise to the particular teacher who is suitable for him. Yet, each being is a path unto himself.

Sometimes you find yourself going through several different traditions or churches or groups, and the same goes for teachers, but this is just part of your journey. Searching to fit into a particular outer religious framework is not the real quest, but finding the God-being within is. Once you have found and experienced the God within, the Divine Beingness that you really are, you have found what you have been looking for, and your quest for the special group or church or religious expression that you once sought will become obsolete. Although it is important to be a part of a gathering of this spiritually-minded people to serve alongside, you will do so as an Illumined or Self-Realized being now, which means the real work has just begun. But it all starts with a serious devotion and yearning heart for the Divine.

Many of my friends and family tell me that my memory of recent past events is not average, and not as good as it should be. I smile when I hear this, every single time. Why? Because during more than 15 years of study, I have found this to be true: the past is aptly named, and should remain so.

Think about this for a few moments: what can you honestly do about events that have come and gone? Sure, we can save them for posterity, the moments in life we cherish, and that is an admirable thing to do in anyones life. We can save them for reflection, building blocks along the way in life, things we would learn from and decide not to repeat. Again, a worthwhile thing. We could save them and use them to fuel our lives, use the anger and frustration as a propellant to get the jobs done. Just in reading that makes it seem kind of strange, doesn't it?

Any time the word past is mentioned, another word is automatically used in conjunction with it: that word is Remember. A word to be wary of, to be sure. The reason I say this is a quote I heard from some time ago (and I honestly do not recall who said it) that went something like this:

"The word remember is a simplistic word conveying a complex situation. The action involved means to take a portion of something lost or set aside, and to re-attach it to yourself. In short, to re-member a piece of the past or something that is not present in our lives. What this means in relevance to past events is that we re-member something from a past event and bring it into our lives in the here and now."

For me, this is such a bold concept and statement that it took time to digest and put into my own terms. What I have found is profound. Here is an example.

We remember an argument that we had with a loved one. All the details, most of the words, but most importantly, we remember the emotions. the whole spectrum of them. In effect, we have brought that past event to life again in our present, the here and now.

I know some people will scratch their head and nod, waiting for the next sentence. However, I have to tell you this also. Science has now proven that the mind can not discern between a visualization of an event and the actual event itself. Some world class athletes train in this fashion: they visualize doing the sport, and their muscles respond in the same way as if they had actually done that same thing for real.

So when we remember and relive those past events and emotions, we bring it to life all over again, into our current waking moment. Be it a happy moment, a sad one, an angry one, they all come back to life again through remembering.

Unleash the past, remember only those items that represent what you desire other people to know you by. Leave the anger, the hurt, the frustration alone, let it die its natural death. Chose instead to remember the happy, the joyful, the uplifting moments. Fill your life with the greatest things from your past and allow it to come to life again and again any time you want. Re-Member those times in your life to the here and now.

Unleash the past and allow it to work with you to unlock your tomorrow.

Are you tired of playing games, wearing masks or trying to be someone other than yourself? Wouldn't you like the freedom to just be accepted for who you are, without the pressure to be someone you really don't know how to be? Would you like to learn how to embrace your uniqueness and resist the pull to be like everyone else? God knew what He was doing when He made you. You are a unique individual—God created you the way you are! It's time that we dare to accept ourselves as different and stop being insecure about who we are.

If you're going to overcome insecurities and be the person God's called you to be, you must have the courage to be different. Unhappiness and frustration happen when we reject our uniqueness and try to be like each other. If you're going to be successful at being completely you, then you're going to have to take a chance on not being like everyone else. You must ask yourself, Am I a people pleaser or a God pleaser?

Becoming a people pleaser is one of the easiest things we can do...but it can ultimately make us very unhappy. When we begin pleasing others, we begin to hear comments that make us feel good about ourselves. That's okay as long as we don't derive our sense of worth from it. People are too fickle for us to place our sense of worth in their opinions. We're worth something because God says we're worth something—not because of what people think or say about us.

People pleasers allow others to control their lives in order to gain acceptance and approval. But God doesn't want us to be easily manipulated or controlled by others. We shouldn't let other people's opinions of us control our actions.

At the same time, we must walk in love. We can't just do anything we want, whenever we want, with total disregard for the feelings of others. We can't say, "I'm going to do this, and if you don't like it, that's tough—that's your problem!" The Bible commands us to love others, and love doesn't behave that way. However, we must not allow people to manipulate and control us to the point that we're never free to be who we are. If we do, we'll always try to become the person we think others expect us to be.

The world (those we know and deal with on a daily basis who may be family, friends, people in the neighborhood or even in the church) is continually trying to conform us to its image. The word conform means "to be similar in form or character; to behave in accordance with prevailing modes or customs." Romans 12:2 says, Do not be conformed to this world (this age),…but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind…It's then that we find the good and acceptable will of God for our lives.

People will always try to fit us into their mold, partly due to their own insecurity. It makes them feel better about what they are doing if they can get someone else to do it too. Very few people have the ability to be who they are and let everybody else be who they are. Can you imagine how nice the world would be if we would all do that? Each person would be secure in who he is and let others be who they are. We would not have to try to be imitations of each other.

God wants to take us, with all our weaknesses and inabilities, and transform us, by working from the inside out, to do something powerful in this earth. If we're going to overcome insecurities and succeed at being ourselves, we can't continue to be afraid of what everybody else may think. We can't continue to allow others to fit us into their mold. We are different! We are unique! God created us this way to accomplish His purposes here on earth.

The days are getting longer and the buds on the trees are beginning to burst. What a wonderful time of year to be awake and alive! And this year, with a little help from Law of Attraction, you can clean more than the cobwebs from the corners of your house.

First, let's explore the hottest buzzword of the decade, Law of Attraction. Simply stated, it means, "like attracts like." There are many ways that's expressed in our culture, such as 'birds of a feather flock together' or 'misery loves company.' What those expressions are communicating is that at the deepest level, we create our own reality based on our thoughts. It's not just the thoughts that shape our lives; it's how we feel about what we're thinking about. Or, as Abraham-Hicks says it, "how you feel and what you get are always a match."

At first, that may seem too daunting to even contemplate! But as you begin to work with this ancient universal spiritual principle, you come to appreciate its equanimity and even-handedness. That's when the fun begins!

Does that mean you have to monitor every thought you think? Of course not! That would be impossible…and not a lot of fun. What is does mean is that the more you pay attention, the more you'll notice what subjects trigger negative feelings and what subjects trigger positive ones. That's where spring-cleaning comes in!

Let's say you want a relationship in your life. How does that thought make you feel? Are you excited at the prospect? Or depressed that it hasn't happened yet? Do you believe you'll meet the mate of your dreams? Or do you believe "all the good ones are taken?"

What about money? Do you believe you can have as much as you want? Or do you think you'll always need more? Are you someone who feels rich, no matter how much you have in the bank? Or do you feel poor, no matter how much you have in the bank? What other negative declarative statements are you harboring in your closet?

Spring-cleaning can bring you face to face with your long-held negative beliefs. A belief is only a thought we keep thinking. Sometimes, they are transparent beliefs – we don't even realize we're holding them until we look closely and see how they're holding us back!

Here are some spring-cleaning tips to help you get on track for all of your greatest desires:

1. Make a list of the most important parts of your life. The list might include relationships, job, money, home, family, friends.

2. Write down whatever comes into your mind about those subjects.

3. Read what you've written with an awareness of how your beliefs shape your reality. Are there any thoughts or beliefs you might want to change? Great! You've found the hidden dust-bunnies!

4. Write affirmative statements in the present tense about the subjects you've chosen. For example, "I am living the life of my dreams with my soulmate." Or, "I have a wonderful job that pays me more money than I need."

In the same way you go through your closet at the start of the season, take some time to go through your beliefs and change the ones that don't serve you. Not only will you start manifesting more quickly, you'll find more room in your closet for a whole wardrobe of new thoughts!

Ever since The Secret came out more and more people are beginning to learn about attracting dreams into their lives and the power of their thoughts and manifesting their goals into reality.

There are other books on the same topic as well – The Cosmic Ordering Service, Ask and it is Given and many other resources.

The Problem
The problem here is that majority of the people out there do not know how to perform the visualisation exercise. They try it for a little while, nothing happens and they go back to their dreary lives muttering how The Secret doesn't work.

I know because that's exactly what I did -until I found out how to put my visualisations on jet fuel. The secret lies in using all your senses and by generating a successful feeling before visualising. Most people will close their eyes and imagine their goal ………. And that's it!

This doesn't work

The Solution
The way to do it is to fully engage your body and your senses in the exercise. Here is an easy step by step process to kick start your visualisations.

1) Relax your body by naming the body part and stating is now soft and relaxed - eg My head is now soft and relaxed, my neck is now soft and relaxed etc

2) Remember a time when you were successful at something – it doesn't matter what it is but See, Hear and Feel what you felt. It could be at work, at home it doesn't matter as long as you get that happy successful feeling in your body.

3) Now with this happy successful feeling in your body like a gentle hum of success. Visualise your goal.

4) See it clearly, imagine all the surroundings, hear the voices or noises around you, feel how it would feel to achieve that goal! Make it as real as possible

And that is it - this 4 step process will ensure that your visualisation leave you charged up and excited just waiting for your dreams to manifest in your life!!

Remember the secret to succeeding is all in Step 2!!! Visualising with your body already vibrating with the feeling of success puts your visualisation on jet fuel.

Do you know that actual conversation between two people is no verbal?
We, however, know less about it and the truth is that your body never tells a lie.

It tells everything to others what it feels. So, if you know how to read the body language of a girl, you can have a very clear idea of what she thinks of you.
You can easily figure out if she is interested or not.

The body language can be divided into two categories.
Open gestures and closed gestures. We shall talk about both the types.
Let us first start with open gestures.

If you make eye contact with her, she stares at you and suddenly looks away, that means she is feeling a bit nervous and she is interested in you.

She will often play with her hair and adjust her clothes if she finds you cool or if she is attracted to you.
Notice her palm.
A girl will try to show her palm to one she is interested in. This gesture says, catch me if you can.
One, very important gesture is her shoulder orientation.

She will lean towards you if she is interested in you. If she is very comfortable with you, she may stretch her legs.

If she smiles when she looks at you, it means a jackpot. Go and talk to her.
One very common thing is, she will laugh at just everything what you say, no matter how bad your sense of humor is.

Now let us come to closed gestures.
If a woman is not interested in you, she will roll her eyes to reveal that.

If she crosses her legs, it is not a good sign; it means she is very nervous.
If she crosses her arms also, she may be nervous but it shows that she is interested too.

How to Audaciously (yet graciously) Protect Yourself

For Audacious Confidence you MUST have powerful boundaries that say how you want to be treated. If there was one item in your life you must handle it is put your boundaries in place.

Strong boundaries are like a field of positive energy you surround yourself with.
Strong boundaries allow for better communication and intimacy in your life.
The good news is this: you get to decide what are your boundaries.

Here's some boundary ideas you might want to borrow:

No one is allowed to hit me, at any time, or for any reason.

No one is allowed to make disparaging or sarcastic remarks to me.

No one may yell at me.

No one may gossip around me.

No one may order me around and be disrespectful.

How often have you let a remark or action go by so you don't rock the boat?
Now is the time to give that up and set your personal boundaries.

To protect your space, time and energy you may want to give yourself permission to:

Say a gracious NO.

Let the answering machine pick up

Set up call return times

Turn off the phone ringer

Request that people be on time

Stop a volunteer commitment that has run its course

Ask for help around the house

Delegate

Ask for more information before you buy an item or make any decision

When you are setting boundaries be very clear about what your intentions are.
Are your intentions to move toward healing, closeness and reclaiming your personal power?
If yes, keep going.

If no, then consider this: living well is the best revenge, not getting back at a person or situation. That never works. So go for clarity of intention. With a clear intention to strengthen relationships you can move forward and here is a great method that really works.

Step one: If you have any unexpressed emotion around your weak boundary, you MUST blow off the steam so that you can be CHARGE NEUTRAL. No defensiveness. No anger that will sink your ship.

Ideas to help you: Take a brisk walk with the intention to let out all that has built up around this crossed boundary so that negative energy deflates. Write a letter to the person who has crossed your boundary make sure you include every single item that has upset you, do not censor yourself keep writing until you run out of things you have suffered over caused by the weak boundaries and the other persons lack of knowledge around them. Next read it aloud. You may have to read it a few times until what you have written has no emotional charge and sounds almost silly to you.
(This works very well if you have a good friend whom you can do this with)

Next: Tear the letter up into tiny pieces, place the pieces in a fire resistant container set it on fire.
(Have a pitcher of water handy just for safety's sake please) Throw the ashes out into the air so that you can be free of the upset. Send the upset out into the universe and let the upset go.

"Step Two: Write yourself a boundary script and try it out in the group or with someone you feel comfortable with sharing what you are doing. Even better do it together.

Ideas to help you: Avoid being Miss Nice or Mr. Nice-Guy. Just tell the truth without any frills, story or apologies for asking for what you want. Say it straight.
Take ownership of the situation. Be accountable for the fact that by allowing that boundary to be crossed in the past you have been sending a message that it's okay with you and that you are responsible.

Now that you are charge neutral and can say this from your heart.
Try one.
Begin using the person's name.

Let's suppose you have a friend who is always late for everything, never calls you and it bothers you to the point of silently steaming and you don't want to make plans with her anymore, but you somehow always do.

Susie, I wanted to let you know about something that's been bothering me and I want to clean this up. I find that your lateness to our lunch dates is getting in the way of my being able to enjoy our friendship. My request is that when we have an appointment to meet please be on time.

Another could be for a family member who takes their anger out on you.
This one is harder.
Take a breath (say the sky is blue to yourself)
then
CHARGE NEUTRAL
Samantha, do you realize you are yelling at me? I ask that you stop yelling at me. Please lower your voice to a conversational tone and then I will be able to discuss this with you.
(If they can't stop yelling you add.. I am going to leave until you calm down).

Points to ponder- Setting Boundaries in the moment
The first time you state your boundaries you may not be taken seriously, especially if the behavior you are trying to protect yourself from is one that you have tolerated in the past.

Even those who truly love and care about you may violate your newly-set boundaries when acting out of habit or they may try to "test the limits" of your new resolve or they do not clearly understand how important your boundaries are to you.

Here is a direct and gracious way to handle people when they cross a boundary.
To illustrate how the process works in the context of a real-life example, let's assume you have set a personal boundary that says no one has the right to yell at you at any time, for any reason.

Using a CHARGE NEUTRAL TONE (take a breath. "The sky is blue")

Inform them of what they are doing "Do you realize that you are yelling at me?"
Often this will stop them right there. Sometimes people don't hear themselves.
Thank them when they stop.

If not, go on to:

Request that they stop now. "I ask that you stop yelling at me now."
"Please speak to me in a conversational tone."

If they shift what they are doing, say, "Thank you for respecting my wishes."

If not.

Demand. "I insist that you stop yelling at me now."member to continue speaking in a neutral tone of voice. If at this point the person still has not stopped the behavior then you move on to the last step,

Leave. If the person is unable to stop. Then exit the situation.
Using your charge neutral voice and a calm demeanor say," I am going to leave the room now as I cannot hear you when you are yelling at me.."

You can use this process whenever you detect a boundary has been crossed. It takes a bit of courage at first, however the more you practice the more you will be able use this process. The key is to remain neutral and calm in both word, vocal tone and body language.
Get into ACTION.

Set personal boundaries that define what others cannot do to you or around you.
Boundaries are your personal MOAT system that protect you from the behaviors of others that do not meet your personal standards.
Boundaries help you to stop agreeing to doing things you really don't want to do.
Boundaries are there to help you to put YOU first.
Boundaries are there for you to ensure that you get the proper environmental nourishment you require to be your best self.
Be firm. Be gracious.
This is really great and is life-transforming.
Enjoy it!